Every love story begins with 'how we met'.
I met James at church.
We were introduced by none other than my pastors, whom met him at the gym.
Gym rat meets hard-core pastor. It's like a Best Seller title.
I had my reservations because he was so old... fashioned (you thought I was just gonna say OLD?!?!) Though it's true, he was just a tad bit older than me.
Nevertheless, his persistence and charm paid off and age became nothing. I consented to a first date, of which he always likes to point out how I supposedly ate like a horse. Just cause I ain't no sissy girl who worries about her figure (I'll run it off later) and had to fend for her food amongst 3 brothers growing up, so what if I can put it away?!
Plus, the guy took me to a fancy steak house and though odds already were in his favor of having a second date, any sensible girl would've done the same..."of course I'll have the Lobster waiter"!
Well that second date did happen and that's when we both knew, this was it! (Guess it was good he saw my eating habits early on!)
Two years and 4 months later he popped the question. Soooo worth the wait (insert sarcastic tone and rolling of the eyes here)!! In all seriousness, and girls you know what I'm talking about, the 'WAIT' is soooo hard while you're in it BUT honestly, at least in my case, it was SO worth it. And I can say that with all sincerity.
I won't lie, I had my days...or weeks even, when it felt like it was ever gonna happen. But I learned fairly early on in our relationship that if I focused more on what 'wasn't happening' instead of what 'was happening', I was going to miss out completely on what was right in front of me.
Looking back, both of us have changed SO much since we started dating. In a good way. Which only feeds my hope for our future. A healthy relationship SHOULD evolve and grow.
If you find yourself in a rut in your relationship, chin up, it won't always be that way. As long as you're working on yourself and working on loving your partner. You'll still have off days. You'll have rough patches. But once you've ridden out the storm, you can look back and see how you've grown closer and stronger because of it.
Yes, live in today. Stop and smell the roses. But don't dwell on the darker side of things, because tomorrow WILL be brighter :)
With my recent status change from 'dating' to 'engaged', comes a new season in my relationship. For anyone who has planned a wedding, they know the craziness that ensues. Living in today while planning for tomorrow is quite the balancing act. What I've found to be true is this: you can only plan one day at a time :)
I want so much to be already married. To start our lives together. More than anything I just want to get through all the details of the BIG DAY! What keeps me grounded is reminding myself that this only happens once. This season of life only happens once. And from what I've been told, it FLIES by!
So while I'm 'in it', I've chosen to enjoy it. I've chosen to not let the inevitable STRESS that brides get, overcome me. I've chosen to stop and smell the roses. Because what is ONE DAY in comparsion to a LIFETIME with the man of my dreams?!
